Welcome to Sidelines, a blog by Karl Miran, Athletic Director, who provides insight into how sports are an integral part of the educational experience.

How to Know What "The Right Thing" Is

The definition of ethical conduct that Dr. Bob Bowman, Head of Upper School, learned from his 5th grade teacher, “telling the truth and doing the right thing” is a great starting point for discussing ethics in sport.  Why is it so hard sometimes to do the right thing? As I sat down to compose this blog entry, there were two articles on the sports pages that revealed some of the unethical behavior that occurs in the world of athletics:

  • “Russian Athletes Banned from 2018 Winter Games” due to a systematic use of performance-enhancing drugs by Russians in the 2014 Winter Olympics.
  • “A Rivalry Grows Dangerous” as the NFL game between the Bengals and Steelers was marked by dirty play, with two players removed from the field on stretchers, and multiple players suspended for unnecessary roughness.

The above-referenced world-class athletes can reap great monetary rewards from winning a championship.  Although high school and middle school athletes do not have the same monetary incentives, they may still struggle with what “doing the right thing” means in a particular situation, and from that struggle they grow as competitors, and as human beings.  

A couple examples: 

 1.   High school tennis and golf are played without officials. Tennis players are expected to fairly call their opponent’s shots “in” or “out” and golfers are responsible to call stroke penalties on themselves and to keep their own score accurately.  The learning process in those sports has two dimensions:

o Getting athletes to commit themselves to acting honestly and fairly in carrying out these responsibilities

o Teaching athletes how to deal with an opponent who shows evidence of cheating  

  • Don’t get mad
  • Continue to do the right thing
  • Confront your opponent; try to convince him to change his behavior; don’t be bullied; and call in coaches when needed.

 2.   In sports where there is a referee or other officials to enforce the rules, the athletes still have a responsibility to behave ethically.

In any game, referees will make mistakes: out-of-bounds calls missed, fouls not called, timing errors, all of which often strikes a competitor as “unfair.” However, the game requires acceptance of an impartial rules enforcer to give the result legitimacy.  Players and coaches who lose control while protesting a call run several risks:

  Giving the team an excuse for failure (“the refs were against us”)

  Losing their focus on the things they can control

  Escalation of emotional response to the next disputed call

 One other aspect of imperfect officiating is illustrated by the strike zone in baseball.  According to the letter of the law, the zone exists as shown in the picture below:

On any given day, however, the actual strike zone depends on how the umpire calls balls and strikes. If a ball between the ankles and knees is consistently being called a strike, while every pitch above the waist is called a ball, that umpire is consistently calling a “low strike.” Protesting is likely a useless waste of time and energy. It is ethical, in that situation, for our pitchers to target their pitches to the area where strikes are being called because the umpire (who is granted authority by the rulebook) has demonstrated what he considers the zone for that day. Throwing pitches at the mid-chest level and arguing that they “should” be called strikes is a waste of energy.  

The above argument does not apply to practices that are clearly damaging to the health of athletes or are universally disapproved. For example, the fact that many Olympic athletes have profited from performance-enhancing drugs does not justify their use by the Soviet team in 2014. 

 3.   As competitors, both teams are trying to gain an advantage over the other – sometimes the methods of the other team seem unsportsmanlike.  As an analogy, think of the basketball player boxing out to position himself for a rebound – the best response for our player is to concentrate on the “controllables”:

  Push back, within the limits of the rule

  Establish inside position quicker the next time  

 4.    Within the team dynamic, athletes have an ethical responsibility to play to the best of their abilities, and to do so in ways that promote the growth of their teammates, and the strengthening of bonds between teammates. Within a team there is competition between players for playing time. Playing hard in scrimmages is desired, but playing dirty or using psychological intimidation against one’s teammates, increases the risk of injury and may make the team less able to compete against their real rivals. Since “what is good for the team” is at the heart of athletic ethics, such actions are to be avoided.

 Those interested in a deeper examination of ethical conduct in sports should check out the following links:

  The Institute for Diversity and Ethics in Sport

  NYU’s program in Sports and Society

  The Canadian Centre for Ethics in Sport

Posted by kmiran on Wednesday December 13, 2017 at 12:06PM
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But, It's Messy!

Teachers, parents, students, and coaches sometimes need to be re-assured that learning is messy, progress is messy.   The hard part is not in accepting that life is “messy”; during adolescence, the evidence is unavoidable.  No, the difficult part is in trusting that progress, learning, and growth is taking place. 

A couple reflections on the necessity of going through “growing pains” in the messy phase that leads to growth:

  Developing leaders may be sloppy:

Jeremy LaCasse, Assistant Head at Taft School, writes about the temptation for teachers (and parents) to work too hard to steer students toward success.  To see his full essay, go to:   It is natural, after all, for adults to want the outcome of a student project to be successful.  However, he stresses that it is necessary for students to “do the work” and face the risk of failure, in order to fully grow as leaders. 

  Developing a team is not a one-and-done:

In my years mentoring coaches, I often hear coaches (after a loss, or a string of losses) echoing LaCasse’s rhetorical question “Why don’t they do what I tell them to do?” They sometimes say:

“we told them to deny the ball to #23”

after #23 from the other team scores 3 goals, or

“we told them to work the ball inside”

after our team loses by shooting 20%, all outside shots, or

“we told them to eat a healthy lunch”

after an athlete gets sick to her stomach during a race

As we talk, I will try to help those coaches understand some wisdom that I received in my second year of coaching, working for John Whitehead, a sometimes grumpy, old-school coach.  He reminded me of the “Four Stages of Coaching”:

You Tell Them

You Show Them

You Watch Them

You Tell Them

 At first, I thought this was a cute little adage, but eventually it made sense.  The lesson:  Good coaching is a circular process, relying on evaluation and effective feedback, and it never ends.

Great coaches and great teachers recognize when learning is taking place internally, even when it is obscured by a messy exterior. They adjust their teaching when the evidence calls for it, but they keep the faith that progress is being made. They combine flexibility in their methods with steadfastness in their commitment to their long-term plan.  

Posted by kmiran on Wednesday November 29, 2017 at 09:12AM
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Champions of What?

Playoffs!!?? Don’t talk about…playoffs !!

At this time of year, as our varsity teams begin their post-season play, I am asked lots of questions about the playoffs:

  Which organization is this playoff game a part of?

  What is our league?

  Why are we in this championship or this tournament? 

  What are we playing for? – if we win, we would be champions of what?

Unlike Colts coach Jim Mora in 2001, I don’t mind answering questions about the playoffs.

We belong to two state-wide athletic associations and a conference (or league).  Both the associations and the league divide their members according to school enrollment and strength of program, to promote fair and meaningful competition.  Ideally, the playoffs and championships at the end of the season will be scheduled in a manner that do not overlap but, when they do, we make the best of the situation:

Please click on the logos below to learn the basic facts about each association and their roles in determining our athletic schedules:

















Explanation of the video clip:

Nov. 25, 2001

The Indianapolis Colts, after earning a spot in the playoffs in Coach Jim Mora’s first two years, had just lost to the 49ers to drop their record to 4-6.  The coach began his remarks to the press by focusing on how inept their offense had been that day, when one reporter asked him about the Colts’ chances of making the playoffs.  His response is now a piece of American sports lore and legend. 

Posted by kmiran on Thursday October 26, 2017 at 08:19AM
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“The Whole is Greater” - Teamwork as a “Plus”

What does the “plus” in W + H mean?  In what ways does school life create something in our students’ experiences that didn’t exist before? In Athletics, that process of creating a new entity is most clearly shown in the concept of a team, in which 10, or 15, or 20 individuals come together, under the guidance of their coaches, to create something new.

One of the clichés that supports the value of teams is “the whole is greater than the sum of the parts.” As with many common sayings, the wording of the original phrase was different, and the different formulations through history provide useful ways of thinking about the value of an athletic team. 

The Greek philosopher Aristotle, in his Metaphysics, wrote. "...the whole is not, as it were, a mere heap, but the totality is something besides the parts, there is a cause of unity ...". What brings a team together?  What makes its members dedicate themselves to the well-being of the unit, and makes team success more important than individual glory?  Is it the camaraderie, the bonds between teammates? Is it the athletes’   respect for their coach, and their desire to live up to the principles he espouses?  Is it a recognition that the only defense against a rival team is to work in unison with one’s own teammates?

In the 20th Century, the Gestalt psychologist Kurt Koffka declared, "The whole is other than the sum of its parts."  When that phrase was mis-translated by some Americans to “greater than the sum of its parts” Koffka was careful to correct the speaker.  What he meant can be illustrated by the triangle to the right:  there are 3 black figures that create a white space between them. Our mind has a concept of the nature of a triangle, so we see a triangle in that white space. The white triangle space is not “greater” than the black figures, it is different.  According to the Gestalt thinkers, athletic coaches must have a pre-conceived notion of a team, and must teach those characteristics to their athletes. All the actions help create a team, such as: 

  • common suffering through conditioning drills
  • adoption of a selfless, sharing, style of play
  • team dinners or other social events
  • sharing of duties like transporting team equipment will only help build team bonds if the players are alerted that their goal is to create a strong unit, and given a clear picture of what “team” feels like.  

What have we learned from our exploration of these philosophers?  Even though they may have never taken a corner kick, or turned a double play, they teach us that:

  • Teams do not come into existence automatically or by accident
  • Coaches must develop a concept of shared effort and accomplishment in their players’ psyche, and must teach their players how to achieve that goal
  • Players must want to be on a successful team, to adopt the mindset of a champion

 All the more reason to celebrate the successful Ram teams of the past, and the present!



Posted by kmiran on Thursday September 28, 2017 at 10:53AM
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Benefits of Being a High School Athlete

In a provocatively titled article in The Atlantic two years ago, Joe Pinsker asked “Why Do Former High School Athletes Make More Money?”

As it turns out, this is not based on wishful thinking, nor is it a misinterpretation of the facts.  There are many metrics demonstrating the earning power of high school athletes compared to non-athletes. The earning power of athletes is correlated with several other differences including their prominence (relative to non-athletes) in upper management positions (see graph below). It is as true for women as it is for men. It is true when athletes are compared to musicians, actors, or yearbook editors. 

Now a group of academic researchers, led by post-doc researcher Kevin Kniffin, is trying to answer questions about why that disparity exists:

  • §  Is it because kids with more marketable skills, and more confidence, are drawn to sports?
  • §  Do sports teach the skills that make successful business people and professionals?
  • §  Do some sports teach those skills better than others?

One encouraging piece of the data: Former athletes not only earn more, but they give more back to society, giving more money and donating more time to good causes.  

Kniffin, et al.’s findings will be of interest to parents, and to others (like me) who love sports and value their place in our society. However, I will pay a lot less attention to the statistics on athletes’ average salaries, while paying more attention to the data on the skills that athletes learn by competing and being a great teammate.  Lifetime earnings are only one measure of success.  After all, if a former Ram athlete chooses to excel at a less lucrative profession, we want him or her to lead and achieve in that field, too.

Posted by kmiran on Thursday June 15, 2017 at 08:41AM
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“I Chose to be a Ram” – W-H Student-Athletes Tell their Story

For the past three years, our Rams Recognition Night banquet has been headlined by two student-athletes, chosen by the Captains’ Council to represent the Wardlaw-Hartridge athletic experience. Opening and closing this year’s presentation were seniors Carlin Schildge and Jordan Rose. Their speeches contained powerful messages to their teammates, parents, and coaches about the most valuable lessons they learned competing as Rams.

Carlin, who excelled at soccer and cheer (serving as captain of both teams), started by recognizing the extraordinary opportunities available to W-H students in the Ram Athletic program. Her own career, in which she quickly became her team’s best offensive threat in a new sport (girls’ lacrosse), only to switch to boys’ lacrosse on the school’s first-ever varsity squad, was offered as proof of the support for student opportunity offered by the school.  


But, she pointed out, the very presence of so much opportunity makes it incumbent on the athletes to seize those opportunities with a full heart and a full gas tank.


Using Coach Mike Romeo’s words, she pointed out that the extraordinary accomplishments of the W-H girls’ team the past four years were significant as indicators of the “story” that the team wrote about itself.  

In an homage to Kobe Bryant, Jordan began his speech with a “Dear Basketball” letter that he penned this February, after realizing that he had played his last organized game.


He demonstrated how Coach Maxwell’s words, notably his reminder that “basketball is a microcosm of life,” had stuck with him. 


As examples, he cited three of the most vibrant lessons that basketball had taught him about life:

a. Respect is earned, not given

b.   Change is inevitable, but growth is optional

c. We are defined in life by our response to failure

Both Carlin and Jordan gave numerous examples of the particular challenges, and the unique strengths of Ram Athletics.  They are grateful for the ways their athletic experience (and many aspects of their education) were different for having enrolled at W-H.  Speaking for everyone in the room, Jordan ended the evening by reminding the audience that, “We are what we choose to be, and I chose to be a Ram.” 


Posted by kmiran on Thursday June 1, 2017 at 12:40PM
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Award Season: Lasting Impressions Made With or Without the Hardware

In the late spring, we begin the “award season” at W-H.  It’s not as lucrative as the motion-picture industry’s 7-week slog from the Golden Globes to the Oscars, but the awards at any independent school are nonetheless accompanied by tension, elation and disappointment.

The Athletic Department participates fully, naming “winners” of many awards, including the Wigton and Chambliss Awards, the Vietor Award, and six scholar-athlete or sportsmanship awards given by the NJSIAA and GMC. Every year, we try to distribute these honors to the most worthy of our senior (and 8th-grade) student-athletes, and every year we fail to do so perfectly.  Some students and parents are disappointed, and other bystanders may criticize us for not picking someone they believe to be the “best” candidate.  

If the charge is “emphasizing imperfect awards that add to the stress, and fail to make graduation season joyous for many students,” we would have to plead guilty.  Humans make mistakes, awards have a subjective element in the judging, for every winner there are three or four losers.  In that case, why do we continue to promote these career awards at the end of each school year? Our answer has two parts:

1.)   A look at the real recipients of the “message” of award season

2.)   A look at what remains in the memory banks 10, 20 or 30 ears later

1.   Awards have two purposes:  we certainly want to reward student-athletes who have contributed mightily to our program, but we also need to send a “message” to juniors, sophomores, and freshmen that “you can aspire to win this award in your senior year; embrace the virtues we are rewarding, and make them central to your performance, every day.” As a former headmaster of mine said every year at award time: “We honor the young men and women on stage tonight, but we also honor the notion of excellence itself.” That is, none of the award-winners are intrinsically better than anyone else; they are rewarded for their dedication to the ideals of the scholar-athlete, the great competitor, or the true sportsman.  There is something very democratic in that notion. It also may lend a little humility to the “winners” while serving as a source of hope for the younger generation..

2. Since this blog post began with a comparison to the movie industry’s awards season, perhaps some well-known motion pictures can provide useful perspective on our awards, too.  Now that the awards shows are over, and the newspaper stories have been written, does it matter that Moonlight won the Best Picture, rather than La-La Land? After all, audiences were moved by both pictures and both films made a lot of money for their producers, directors, actors, and assorted others.  

If we still watch The Godfather 45 years after its release, we do so not because it won “Best Picture”, but because of the story, the beauty of the cinematography, and the memorable lines.  People of my generation still sprinkle their conversation with “make him an offer he can’t refuse” or “leave the gun, take the cannolis.” After all, the Best Supporting Actor honors went to Joel Grey (Cabaret), rather than Godfather co-stars Robert Duvall, James Caan, or Al Pacino, but none of us today remember any memorable quotes from Cabaret.

In a similar way, the meaningful work a student puts in for a chemistry lab, like the effort he or she put into winning a soccer game, becomes part of their DNA, and, if it was really good, it affects the memories of others:  classmates, teammates, teachers, and coaches.  It lives on, regardless of whether they received an award for their work, or not. 

My message to all the students who wonder why they are not given awards that they feel they deserve:  

1. Remember what you did receive:  a Wardlaw-Hartridge degree

2. Consider how outstanding Duvall or Pacino were in “The Godfather”

3. Consider the work that Duvall, Pacino, and Caan did in 1974, 1975, and 1976, after “losing” the Oscar.

4. Wherever you go to college, knock ‘em dead!

Posted by kmiran on Wednesday April 26, 2017 at 04:15PM
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What a Conditioning Drill Taught Me about Support, Service and Teamwork

Entering my senior college football season, the coaching staff instituted some new conditioning drills. We were coming off two seasons in which the team had under-performed (5-3, 4-4) so, in addition to building our skills, the coaches knew it was important to enhance our toughness and competitiveness.   Among the new drills was one that taught us that toughness and competitiveness could be better achieved as a team, than as an individual.

The drill was a variation of “gassers”, which require players to run the width of the field, over-and-back.   This drill was called “Archers” (an explanation of the name will come later), requiring each player to sprint the width of the field 10 times. The squad is divided into sub-teams of 5, each of which contained Players A, B, C, D, and E. Player A is the first runner; on the whistle, he runs over-and-back (106 yards).

After his first trip, player A picks up B; holding hands, they run over-and-back (the second “lap” for A, the first for B).

By A’s third “lap” when he is running with B and C, fatigue usually sets in:  C, being fresh, is usually able to pull the other two players to a faster pace. 

After the 4-man team makes their lap, the 5-man group runs over and back. Player E is on his first lap, providing some “juice” to the group, while player A, although exhausted, is able to push harder, knowing it is his final lap. Thus, the 5-man group often takes the shape of an archer’s bow, being pulled by both A and E.

Just as the drill progresses from a 1-man gasser to a 5-man gasser, it then continues back to 1-man drill, as each player in turn drops off after completing his 5th “lap”. The players who have completed the drill provide verbal support for their teammates -- everyone wants their 5-man group to win, and no one wants their group to lose.  Each group was typically composed of players from every position group, promoting a theoretically equal spread of speed and bulk. Thus, winning depends on effort, not just on physiology.  

Among the lessons learned from this drill:

  • A player can achieve more than he thought possible when he is doing it for a group of teammates:  “Don’t let the group down!”
  • New players (the substitute coming in off the bench) bring fresh energy, ego, and enthusiasm to the players who have been in the game, and may already be fatigued.
  • Old players (seniors facing their final season, and their final chance to leave a legacy) also have the ability to motivate their teammates to try harder, because the results mean so much to them.
  • Succeeding in a team sport requires more than individual effort; to get the most out of one’s teammates, it helps to have relationships based on trust and respect.

That football team went 7-1, winning a league championship.  One of the marks of that squad’s toughness and competitiveness is the way we won:

  Two of our most important wins were close games (3-point margin)

  We won in all conditions: ankle-deep mud, snow, frozen mud.


Posted by kmiran on Wednesday March 29, 2017 at 12:08PM
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The spring 2017 season will be the first in which Wardlaw-Hartridge has fielded a boys’ varsity lacrosse team. In order to do so, we have formed a “cooperative team” with players from both W-H and Union Catholic HS.   Cooperative teams are allowed by the NJ Interscholastic Athletic Association to promote an emerging sports program.   In this case, our goal is to grow the interest in this modern sport with ancient roots, so that both W-H and UC can have separate teams by the spring of 2019.

The roots of lacrosse were nurtured by our Native American predecessors, who developed several different versions of the game, depending on geography. While the tribes in the Southeast (Cherokee, Choctaw, Chickasaw, Creek, and others) allowed each player to manipulate the ball with two short (2 ½ foot sticks), one in each hand, the Great Lakes game (played by tribes like the Menominee, Potawatomi, Sauk, Fox, and Miami) allowed one 3-foot stick with a tiny pocket, barely larger than the ball.  The tribes (Oneida, Lenape, Onandaga) in the Iroquois nation utilized a longer stick with a triangular head, resembling more closely the lacrosse stick we are familiar with. The number of players varied (up to 1,000 per team) as did the length of the field (500 yards - more than a mile).

For all the Native Americans, the sport (referred to by a number of names, including Baggataway or Teewaraton) was a way to prepare soldiers for battle, and to give thanks to the Creator. Modern enthusiasts of the sport will sometimes borrow the Native phrase “Creator’s Game” in linking it to its roots.  

The French Jesuit missionaries and settlers were among the first to notice the sport, but the attempt to transform it into a sport for the North American white man included several innovators in our region: NYU was the first college to field a lacrosse team, in 1877, while the Lawrenceville School joined several other independent schools playing lacrosse in 1882. 

 From that point, the game grew unevenly; by the 1970s, it was popular in various parts of the country, notably Baltimore, Long Island, and upstate New York, plus Eastern Canada.

In the past 20 years, the growth of high school teams and youth teams has accelerated, and good players come from California, Colorado, Texas and the Midwest, as well as the game’s old East Coast strongholds. Nonetheless, across New Jersey, it is more firmly entrenched in some areas than others. For example, the Greater Middlesex Conference (our league) has 34 schools, but only 9 of them sponsor boys’ lacrosse.  We continue to feel that our program will allow us to be in the forefront of growing a great game, requiring speed, skill, courage, and teamwork. 

The fact that it is the sport that was played here before any white men set foot on the continent is an additional reason to make it part of our program.  

For an interesting look at how one of the all-time winningest coaches in college lacrosse sees its relationship to its Native American past, check out this open letter from Dom Starsia:

Posted by kmiran on Thursday February 23, 2017 at 03:10PM
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Questioning Authority?

Part of the myth of athletics in America involves the coach as an authority figure, controlling and dictating all aspects of team life.  In this way of thinking intimidating one’s athletes can be justified in order to achieve unquestioned authority; after all, the players are “just kids" - so cowing them into accepting whatever comes out of the coach’s mouth is good for them in the long run, correct?

Check out this video clip

Not surprisingly, our coaches at Wardlaw-Hartridge take a more enlightened view of their leadership role. Nowhere is this illustrated more clearly than through their attitude regarding questions. Coach Lee Nicholls works to build a collaborative (as opposed to an authoritarian) process of growth on his teams, in which players’ questions indicate their trust in the coach. As Coach Jim Howard notes, even the standard question:  “why are we doing this?” can be taken two different ways:  as a challenge to the coach’s authority, or as an indication that the player is seeking more knowledge, to allow them to buy in to the coach’s scheme more fully.  Nicholls notes that an athlete’s questions allow the coach to gain a better perspective in demonstrating which techniques are difficult for the player to master.  

Coach Tim Head talks about how important it is for athletes to grow through their mistakes.  He tells the story of last spring’s Middle School baseball team, which initially struggled to understand the infield fly rule. Encouraging players to ask questions about the different scenarios in which the rule might be invoked was essential to improving their understanding. Among the questions he would like to hear more are:

  “What can I do to get better?”  (from a player)

  “How can I take responsibility to help us as a team?”  (from a player)

  “Can I take over this part of practice?  I’ve got a different approach to teaching that.” (from an assistant coach)

In one memorable scene from the movie “Hoosiers”, the Dennis Hopper character “Shooter” Flatch is thrust into the head coaching role when Norman Dale gets ejected. In his first timeout, Shooter is initially unable to say anything, until he gets a simple question from one of the players (his son): “You reckon number 4 will take their last shot, Dad?”  (at the 1:47 mark) which triggers his thinking, so that he quickly comes up with the game-winning tactics.  Although their interactions with players are not always as dramatic as those in a Hollywood movie, Ram coaches clearly agree that having involved, committed athletes who ask questions can make their teams stronger.


Posted by kmiran on Thursday January 26, 2017 at 09:31AM
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